Quotes by Deborah Tannen
“For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships.”— Deborah Tannen
“For women, the important thing is to be cherished. For men, the important thing is to be respected.”— Deborah Tannen
“The argument culture urges us to approach the world—and the people in it—in an adversarial frame of mind.”— Deborah Tannen
“Fighting is a metaphor for verbal opposition. In this argument culture, conflict and opposition are valued.”— Deborah Tannen
“Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence.”— Deborah Tannen
“The biggest mistake is believing there is one right way to listen, to talk, to have a conversation – or a relationship.”— Deborah Tannen
“Many of us dismiss talk that does not convey important information as worthless... Such talk is essential to create rapport.”— Deborah Tannen