Adele Faber

“Punishment doesn't stop the misbehavior. It only makes the child more secretive.”

“When we label a child, we create a self-fulfilling prophecy.”

“The language of acceptance is the language of love.”

“What a child doesn't receive, he can't give.”

“A child's feelings must be taken as seriously as an adult's.”

“The quickest way to change a child's behavior is to change our own.”

“It's much easier to do what's right when you feel right.”

“We can't protect our children from life. Therefore, it's essential that we teach them how to live life.”

“Once a feeling is expressed, it becomes less overwhelming.”

“Children don't need to have their feelings agreed with; they need to have them acknowledged.”

“The more you try to push a child's unhappy feelings away, the more he becomes stuck in them.”

“When we give children advice or instant solutions, we deprive them of the experience that comes from wrestling with their own problems.”

“Instead of praise, describe. Describe what you see. Describe what you feel.”

“Feelings need to be identified and expressed in a safe way.”

“When children feel right, they'll behave right.”